Tuesday, July 28, 2015

30 Things I've Learned by Age 30


I am officially entering a new chapter of my life today as I turn 30 {gasp}. While other people avoid turning 30 like the plague, and forever stay in the a perpetual state of 29, I have always embraced my birthday with excitement and an genuine eagerness of what that next year will bring. After all, it's just another birthday in my hopefully long line of birthdays. Let's face it, I love my day–always have, always will.

The past 30 years have had plenty of bumps along the way, but here's what time has taught me:

Make yourself a priority. This one's tricky because there is a fine line between selflessness and selfishness. One of my favorite quotes that goes along with this is, "It's not selfish to give TO yourself as much as you give OF yourself." In other words, don't forget about you.

Comparison is the thief of joy. You are your own person. Don't benchmark your life against anyone else's experiences. Just because they are in one place in their life doesn't mean you should be there, too. Your story is yours and only yours. Be wonderfully unique and your own person. It's okay not to follow the "conventional path".

Understand the value of time. Life is precious and sometimes way to short. Use your time to uplift those around you and spend time with those who love and respect you.

Quit trying to box yourself into being normal. There is no such thing as normal. I'm weird and I fully embrace my quirks. Instead of working so hard to stay in line, step outside of the box and be your own person. People will have a hell of a lot more respect for you in the long run.

A smile will get you a lot farther than a frown. I think this totally speaks for itself. Have common courtesy for those around you. Even when you're stressed and at your wits end, understand that others around you have their own set of unique challenges, just like you. Which leads me to…

Kindness counts above anything else. I don't care if it's a waitress or a sales associate in retail, treat
others how you'd like to be treated if you were in their shoes. In the words of Cinderella, "Have courage and be kind."

Be curious. The more curious you are, the more possibilities you will open throughout your lifetime.

Be honest. I'm a big believer in honesty at all times in life, plain and simple.

Traveling is money well spent. You'll regret a frivolous purchase, but you'll never regret the eye opening experience that traveling give you. Whether are are traveling to another country, across state line or even to a nearby town, you'll have a memory and experience that you won't get by purchasing more stuff.

Have confidence in yourself. Don't let your opinion of yourself be driven by how others see you. You are strong, talented, beautiful and important.

It's okay to be nervous. Turn anxious energy around and use it to push yourself past your comfort zone. I'm a worrier by nature and unless you're in my inner circle, you'd never know it. I'm anxious about even the smallest situations, but that's part of life. Push yourself to try new things and test your limits. It's the only way to truly know what you can accomplish.

Adulting isn't always fun. Mortgage, bills, responsibilities…ick. Alright, it's not all bad, but I'd love to still live with my mom and have plenty of time with family by the pool if I'm being honest.

See the world with child-like wonder. I may be 30, but I'll always be a kid at heart. Sounds cliche, but I prefer to look at everything around me and enjoy it. If that means skipping the the car on the way to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter, so be it. {Yes, this legitimately happened. I told you I'm a child.}

Not everyone is going to like you, and that's okay. This is something that takes time to learn. Be comfortable in your own skin and who cares what that person says.

Know your strengths. Everyone has things that they excel in and things they struggle with. Focus on your strengths and improve upon your weaker areas. You only grow as a person when you're willing to accept your faults and take time to improve upon them.

Nurture your friendships. I would rather have a handful of close friends than a plethora of acquaintances. My best friend knows me better than I know myself some days and she's will to call me on my bullshit, and I her. At the end of the day, your friends are like your family and will be there to celebrate your victories and your sorrows. Enjoy and show them how much you appreciate them.

Take care of your body and sweat it out. I will be totally honest here, I'm not a gym rat by any means. The thought of working out and spending time on a treadmill like a hamster is not for me. However, I can't deny the feel-good endorphins you get from an excellent workout, so I've learned to deal. Instead of spending hours in the gym, I spend time taking my pup for long walks or doing a workout series at home. It's all about finding what you enjoy!

Sunscreen is your friend. 16 year old me is probably cringing at the though of applying sunscreen and ruining a chance at a bronze summer glow, but you can still get a glow and protect your skin in the process. SPF 30 and I have become best friends, which leads to...

Take care of your skin. The proper skincare regimen is paramount. If you don't spend money on anything else, at least buy good skincare products. After all, you only have one shot at taking care of it and it's never to early to start an anti-aging regimen.

When it comes to shopping–quality over quantity. My mom taught me early on the value of quality over quantity. I would rather spend extra money knowing that the quality is better and it will last longer. (i.e. – Do I want one $60 top or 6 $10 tops that are going to fall apart the first time I wash them.)

Have good manners. Is it really that hard to say please and thank you? If you don't understand this simple fact in life, than I don't have time for your nonsense.

Let it go. Many of you know my sister passed away from acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL) in 2011 and if I learned anything from her it is to ,"Let it go." Yes, Frozen lovers, she coined that phrase long before the movie debuted. Letting go of jealousy, petty problems and mistakes helps to free your mind for much more pleasant memories and life experiences and will ultimately make you a happier person.

You're ultimately going to mess up. Perfection is impossible, so quit trying to be perfect. My former boss once told me, "I want you to mess things up. It's only then when you learn from your mistakes." I thought this was the worst advice that could be given, but I look back on that moment and realize that I'm not perfect, nor will I ever be. Life lesson–don't be afraid to make mistakes.

Patience is definitely a virtue. This one isn't a hard one to figure out. Have a little compassion and patience for those around you.

You get what you give. Again, my mom taught me that you get what you give in life. Plain and simple, if you put out positive energy, you'll receive positive energy. Exude negative energy and receive that back. It's simple.

Not everything needs a plan. I feel the most comfortable having a routine and a plan. I'm a creature of habit and I know this about myself. However, sometimes its fun not to have a plan and just see where life takes you.

Slow down and catch your breath. Burning white hot can only last so long. Take on challenges slowly and enjoy even the smallest moments in life.

Take risks. You'll regret things that you didn't do, so have faith and take a risk every now and again.

Be present. Today people are more connected than ever–cell phones, tablets, smart watches, oh my! Put down the technology, disconnect and engage in conversation with your friends, family, etc. Social media can wait.

Buy the shoes, eat the cake and indulge every once in a while. Moderation is key with everything in life. Enjoy splurging on yourself every now again and eat that delicious red velvet cupcake!

There are so many other things that I could share, but these truly represent how I live my life. I'm sure I'm forgetting things. I by no means have my life together, but I'm thankful for my husband, family and friends who help keep me sane everyday and tolerate my chipper morning bird attitude. What all have you learned throughout life so far?








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24 comments:

  1. Happy 30th, pretty girl! Love these tips- such wise words.
    And YESSSSS, SPF is an absolute must, every day, no matter what. The teenage versions of us would disagree, but now we know! :)

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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    1. Thank you Ashley! SPF is my go-to beauty product anymore. It's funny what I would do to get a tan in the summer way back when. Ha!

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  2. 30 is my next one too, and I'm working on embracing it although it's easier said than done. These are great thoughts many of which I have had myself. I will say, I am much more comfortable in who I am as a person at this age and that feels good. You look amazing. Love those shoes!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

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    1. I would totally agree! Trust me, I wish my younger self would have been empowered with some of these life lessons back in the day. I am much more comfortable with all of my quirks and I'm completely okay with them. Thanks for stopping by, Amy Ann!

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  3. Aw, love all of these things! So good to know! Happy birthday!

    xo Jessi
    www.thedarlingdetail.com

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    1. Thanks Jessi! I'm sure I totally missed some, okay a lot, of life lessons in there, but these are what I could come up with quickly. Thanks for the birthday wishes! :)

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  4. Happy 30th! It probably took me closer to 40 before I figured some of this stuff out....great reminders!

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    1. Thanks girl! It's taken me a quite to be totally comfortable in my own skin, but I realized the more I appreciated myself for who I was, the more happy I became.

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  5. So right! Especially when it comes to comparisons. I always tell my friends never to compare your insides to someone else's outsides ... things like FB and Instagram are so awful for that reason. People only post their happy stuff on those sites, and project a much happier life than is reality. Have to learn how to balance that with the reality that everyone has downers in their life - not just me. :)

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    1. Balance in life is definitely key! I've found that learning to appreciate what you have is the most important thing. Thanks for stopping by Payal!

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  6. Cute outfit! Love the top :) These are some great life lessons. Comparison really is the thief of joy. In the blogging world it can be hard not to compare what you have to others but it's always much better just to be grateful for what you have and to enjoy the stage of life you're in. I hope I can embrace my 30th birthday when the time comes. Happy birthday!

    Sierra
    Sierra Elizabeth

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    1. I completely agree! Blogging has been so fun, but also challenging at the same time. You start to compare your entire life to those around you. You just can't do that and be happy with your surroundings.

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  7. Happy 30th Birthday!! Seriously all good reminders on life. I love the outfit and the eat cake shirt is perfect. Thank you for linking up for Turning Head Tuesday. xo~ Megan The Fashionista Momma

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    1. Eat cake should totally be my next life lesson. Sometimes we all get caught up in diets to enjoy cake. Thanks for hosting a link up!

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  8. Happy Birthday! Well I didn't bother when I turned 30 to be honest...I ordered a kick ass cake (a giant cupcake actually) and threw a party! I agree with you that traveling is the best! I love visiting new places!

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    1. Hopefully that giant cupcake was amazing! It sounds delicious! Traveling is my favorite for sure.

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  9. Happy birthday! I love your advice and that cake shirt!!! Stopping by from the Bloggers Who Inspire Me linkup:)

    Tif
    www.brightonabudget.com

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    1. Thank you Tif! Definitely some good lessons to follow for me at at least.

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  10. happy 30th birthday! these are 30 great things learned! love the smile is better than a frown! so many cute lessons learned! have a great year :)
    kelseybang.com

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    1. Thanks Kelsey! I'm sure I missed way more than what I put on the list, but those are things that are definitely front and center in my life.

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  11. Happy 30th ! I think we learn new things as we grow and you have some great points, Love the tee and the color/style of your skirt!!
    Thanks for linking up with Turning Heads Tuesday
    Jess x
    www.elegantlydressedandstylish,com

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    1. It has definitely taken me some time to learn some of those things, but I'm happy I did. Thanks for stopping by Jessica!

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  12. Just read this!! This is great and so on point. You are a fabulous writer!

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    1. Thanks Juhayna! I am positive I missed several life lessons in there, but these were definitely something that I've learned over the years.

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